After my IUI treatment I started reading up about what you should and shouldn’t do to get the best results. Most of what I read agreed that you can carry on life as normal, just take it easy for a couple of days after the procedure. But one thing that kept coming up was eating pineapple.
I thought this might just be an old wives tale, but apparently pineapple – and in particular pineapple core – is loaded with bromelain; or nature’s aspirin. Bromelain helps to thin the blood, which can support the implantation stage as it drives blood to the uterus, and makes the lining stickier, so the fertilized egg can attach.
You have to be careful about when you eat pineapple though. If you eat it before ovulation it can interfere with the acidity in your cervical mucus. It’s recommended to eat it for five days after ovulation, and to avoid it once you have a positive pregnancy test as it can cause mild contractions.
So we’ve decided to start our first cycle of IUI, after another frustrating month.
I’ve been weighing it up in my head since I got my period. Because I know I was able to conceive naturally before, there’s a part of me that feels like I’m giving up. Like I’m not giving my body a fair chance. Like I’m trying to fast track my way through nature’s process. Like I’m cheating.
But I’m just fed up of waiting. I’ve wanted to start a family for so long, and if I can try to speed things up, then why should I wait any longer?
We went to see the doctor this morning. I was paranoid that I wouldn’t be able to do it this month as I had a really light period (I believe a side effect of clomid) but everything looks good. I have two eggs ready to go – one on each side. In fact, they’re so ready that we have to do the treatment sooner than I was expecting – tomorrow.
Once you hit 30 it seems like your Facebook feed is no longer filled with pictures of epic nights out, 4am munchies and drunken selfies. Instead it seems to be dotted with pictures of cherub-cheeked babies and toddlers, parents rejoicing in how much their beloved child continues to amaze them everyday and newly pregnant couples announcing their news to the world with a copy of their 12-week scan.
It’s hard not to feel jealous.
Before my miscarriage I used to really struggle with this. Every time someone announced they were pregnant, my first thought would be ‘that’s not fair, why has it happened to them and not me’, instead of just thinking ‘that’s bloody amazing, congratulations’. Of course the latter would always come out of my mouth, but the envy was always there.
Although we weren’t lucky enough to bring our pregnancy to term, perhaps my perspective has changed a bit now that I know I can conceive. I feel more confident that one day I too will be in their shoes, and because of this I am trying to think not just about my own feelings towards infertility, but about how those close to me are feeling.
Is it possible that you could be more fertile after miscarrying?
OK, I’ve already googled it and can’t find any credible medical sources that confirm – or deny – this. There are, however, a lot of discussions about this on mummy forums with countless people saying they got pregnant again within three months of miscarriage, and a hell of a lot even saying they got pregnant again within the first cycle.
Some women were saying it could be because the progesterone levels in your system are already higher, helping to support pregnancy and implantation.
I don’t know if this is really true, but it made me feel quite positive thinking that I might be able to get pregnant again so soon. I’m really missing the pregnancy symptoms – every time I take my bra off I wish my boobs would ache again!
So after all our excitement, before we even made it to the doctor for the first appointment, we got some bad news. I miscarried at 6 weeks 3 days.
It’s hard to describe how that feels. It’s a bit like we had won the lottery and had already quit our jobs and started planning how to spend the money, then two weeks later got a phone call saying actually your ticket was one number out – you had never won at all.
A miscarriage is a loss of pregnancy before 20 weeks. I always knew the first trimester was the first hurdle we had to get through. One in five pregnancies end in miscarriage, which seems like a huge number – and once you do miscarry, you realize just how common it is. It’s like you become part of a secret miscarriage club. Suddenly everyone you confide in seems to have gone through the same thing, or knows someone who has.
When you’ve been trying to conceive for a long time, it can seem like an impossible mission. You may have seen people around you getting pregnant, without even realizing they were trying, and wonder why it’s not happening for you.
Trying to conceive should be one of the most fun times of your life, but the feeling of not knowing when, or even if, it will happen for you can put a lot of pressure on you and your partner. Unfortunately, sometimes, that pressure can be the thing that’s holding you back.
Every couple is different and has different challenges to contend with, but here are some things that I learnt along the way, which hopefully will help anyone hoping to get pregnant.
I’m five weeks into my pregnancy, but only six days into knowing I’m pregnant and I’m already feeling impatient.
Having been trying to conceive for just over two years I’ve had plenty of time to think about what it will be like getting to this stage. I’ve googled every possible thought I’ve had about pregnancy, and scoured mummy forums to find out what the early symptoms are, what’s normal, what’s not normal, how big you get, what you should eat, what you must avoid at all costs. I thought I was set and knew exactly what to expect. But nothing could prepare me for the actual feeling of being pregnant.